“Rated = HONEST” ~Jule
The tittle says it all.
I was so excited that I found someone just a few months after I moved to CA; things were great. I was happy and you guessed it right, it didn’t work out well. But at that time, I really wish that I could tell someone about this happy news, not through texts or phone calls; but face to face, so I could show her how happy I was. but that conversation didn’t happen as fast as I wanted to let alone with the way I wanted to but I finally broke that happy news to Jule. She took it positively and I felt very supported but during my “dating” period, I didn’t tell Jule all the details. So, now this is the time!
He was a good guy. We had fun. The first time we met, we talked for hours and hours from our childhood stories to our families, to our goals. We never actually talked about what we were looking for but, things were great; first impression was great. He was such a gentleman. So when we were about the part, I knew he was going to kiss me. In my head, I said “oh, shoot, I haven’t practiced in quiet awhile.” but I was pretty proud of myself because I did good, or great, even, because he said so. Well, hopefully he wasn’t just saying it haha. So, we made out. It was great, it felt great 😛
Anyways, we went out to a few more dates after that. He has a thing for race cars, so I went to see Nascar with him and been to a few races. Not my favorite things to do, but it was perfect, because it was with him. And we went to see the Giants game or the Phillies game for me. haha. He was a little distant, I asked him why after the game, he said he was concentrating on the game. Then he apologizes, we made up and all was well, until we got back home, we made out and his hands reached into my pants and grabbed my butts. I was like “WHOA! hold up, brother!” and thankfully nothing further happened after that. See, I have nothing against sex. I know we all adults here, we all want that and we all need that. But I do have standards and I want guys to respect that standards first. if they don’t wanna, then they can go. So, after that night, I asked him about where we are going and where we are standing. and here comes the ugly truth. He answered “I think we’re better off as friends”. I was like “DAMN!!!!” after all these times. I don’t know if “sleeping with me” was his first and only intention, but whatever that was, I’m happy nothing happened with me and him.
See, things like that, you want to just tell your best friend. So she can come run to your house, brings some booze and ice cream. But obviously she didn’t do any of that, too far of a distance. haha. But all is good now, I moved on. I’m happy with things the way they are right now. He tried to contacted me a few times, until last week when he bluntly just asked “hey, let’s have sex” then I just blocked his number because now i am 1000000% sure that sex was all he wanted and never me.
Gosh, it is so hard to be an old fashion girl nowadays. haha but, my point is, do not lower your standards just because he wants you to. Stay strong with what you believe in because real guys will put your happiness before his needs.
So me and Jule are single now, any single guys out there, just give us a holler! hahaha LOL
Lots of love,