Two ladies set out to conquer the world. Just kidding, none of us are ever that ambitious. We are just two individuals who have known each other for a very long time (more than a decade now) that wanted to venture out to collaborate on a project together.

Welcome to “TOOCONFIDENTIALMESS” – too as in ‘two’ (Julia & Patrecia) and too as in well, too. Confidential as in, it is our not so little secret to the world and mess as in our perfectly imperfect lives.

We can’t say that our lives are the most interesting, however, we believe that each of us are made up of stories that are worth telling. Through this journey, together, we want to not only care for each other but also for every one of you who are in the same path as we are. Through sharing about our experiences we hope to be able to show you that no matter if you are more traditional or conventional in your way of living, it is never the less beautiful. We hope to inspire you to live confidently being who are in an unapologetic way. 

Who are we?
We are two Asian born women who grew up and created a life in America; and now calls it home. We are a balance of traditional and unconventional Asian (Indonesian) in our own rights.

Why are we so great that you have to listen to us?
We are not great and you don’t have to listen to us. We are just out here sharing experiences and telling the stories of our lives to those who could relate and to those who want to know and learn about it.

Through this we want to show that whether you are traditional or unconventional; everything is beautiful and there is absolutely nothing wrong with being who you are.

TooConfidentialMess started solely as a blog back in 2015 for two friends to catch up as we live on the opposite side of the country (Jule, east coast and Nanda, west coast). Being who we are as individuals there are just some things that is difficult for us to vocally talk to each other about. Writing about is form of writing ease that burden and allow us to share those unspoken stories or feelings as well as a tool to keep us entertained sometimes.

However, due to time and lack commitment we fell backward and stop. Our lives are now slightly changing we are trying to make a come back with our stories (with new and old media of sharing) and hopefully to stay.

TooConfidentialMess family, we thank you for coming, and we hope you’ll stick around as we tell our stories in the most non-structured way. 

Ask us questions, tell us stories, and what we should talk about through the comments or email us at

J U L E & N A N D A

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